tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7538899393793458584.post6389923971738079231..comments2023-08-17T14:01:06.069-04:00Comments on Tales From Denise James: NOT MATCHED by match.comUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7538899393793458584.post-50695738093671289962017-01-14T12:09:25.056-05:002017-01-14T12:09:25.056-05:00I'm sorry you're having issues too..I have...I'm sorry you're having issues too..I haven't revisited but keep telling myself I should...<br />denisejamesmmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12305831713114083358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7538899393793458584.post-49367731652739579552017-01-11T11:26:56.468-05:002017-01-11T11:26:56.468-05:00Really appreciated this piece, one week into onlin...Really appreciated this piece, one week into online dating and hating it. Thanks for writing up your experiences.LeslieAllenArthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10896906854971029112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7538899393793458584.post-43904101101688150062016-02-08T11:07:36.816-05:002016-02-08T11:07:36.816-05:00Been there, done that. And it can, indeed, be frus...Been there, done that. And it can, indeed, be frustrating. You have to have patience, persistence and very thick skin. And know what you're looking for - and avoid engaging with anyone that's clearly not your match. Don't engage - even to say no thanks. Responding only encourages them. <br />I've met attractive, educated, smart and charming women online. (Only one genuine nutjob, and that's another story.) Everyone has a story but everyone sincerely loves their kids and they are struggling with the same family, work, emotional and financial issues that I am. <br />Although I say I'm 56 online, I'm 62. I always disclose my age on first meeting someone. Some women wonder why I lie about my age. I do it to meet younger women, in their mid-50s. That's who I want to be with. Is that wrong? For me to lie? Not for me. You do your thing, I'll do mine. <br />Here's a pet peeve, though. Pretty consistently, when a woman reaches out to me an asks that we meet, and we do, for drinks or coffee, and the bill comes, the woman never reaches for it or offers to share. YOU ASKED ME OUT! At least share the expense. It always leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Yes, I'm cheap but this is 2016. <br />Also, women tend to give out their cell number almost immediately upon beginning a correspondence. I don't want your number. Not yet, at least. I don't give out my number, or even my name, to anybody until I get some level of comfort with them. <br />But, I consider my online dating experiences positively, even thought I see truth in what you wrote above. Also, keep in mind it's a different experience for men. <br />Best of Luck,<br />Will Weng Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7538899393793458584.post-41031228096779668952016-02-06T01:39:53.321-05:002016-02-06T01:39:53.321-05:00http://some.ly/1eYHYUghttp://some.ly/1eYHYUgAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7538899393793458584.post-57567977443831080682016-02-05T15:23:45.438-05:002016-02-05T15:23:45.438-05:00I love this story! When I tried match.com many yea...I love this story! When I tried match.com many years ago, they evaluated me as being a potential match to only 6% of men! (I eventually met someone who was evaluated as a match to only 3% of women and we dated for awhile--not an especially good idea...) I personally preferred eHarmony. It costs money, which seems to make people more serious (and less likely to be pretending to be in the military--no one wants an eHarmony charge to appear on the statement of a credit card they share with their spouse!). Oddly (I haven't figured out what this says about me), on eHarmony I had to weed through a lot of matches who were gun nuts and listed Ayn Rand as their favorite author or the person with whom they'd most like to share a meal, but the men I eventually met were all really lovely people. (They were so well matched to me, in fact, that we could almost finish each other's sentences. At that point in my life, that felt to me then a little too much like I was dating myself, but I think I might appreciate that quality more these days!) So, don't assume that all dating sites are created equal, but if you do make it in the door of that neighborhood bar, let me know and I'll do the same! xoxox, WKAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com